COLLABORATING WITH THE ENEMY BY ADAM KAHANE

Key Points:

• Moving Beyond "Conventional Collaboration": Traditional teamwork assumes everyone has the same goal and trusts each other. Kahane introduces "Stretch Collaboration" for situations where goals are conflicting, trust is zero, and the outcome is uncertain.
• The Three Stretches:
• Embrace Conflict: Stop trying to force consensus. Instead, learn to navigate the "messy middle" where different perspectives and even heated disagreements can co-exist.
• Experiment Your Way Forward: You cannot plan a perfect solution with people you don't trust. Instead, run small experiments to see what works, focusing on movement rather than agreement.
• Step into the Fray: Collaboration isn't something you do to others; it's something you do with them. You must be willing to change yourself and your own approach if you want the situation to change.

• Abandon the "Leader" Fantasy: Success doesn't come from one person taking charge and "fixing" the others. It comes from acknowledging that no one person has the full answer and that the solution must emerge from the group.
• Focus on Contribution, Not Agreement: You don't have to like your collaborators or agree on why a problem exists; you only need to agree on a shared action that moves the needle forward.
• The "Enemy" Mindset: Kahane teaches readers how to recognize when they are "othering" their opponents and how that mindset creates a barrier to the very progress they want to achieve.